Feminism, and Masculinity: How to have a more useful conversation.

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Oladub, I totally agree: language is big part of the problem.

If you're interested, I recommend some readings that illustrate how language itself is a subjective social contruct largely defined by dominant social classes.

A good start, particularly as it pertains to cultural constructions of gender, would be Michel Foucault's "The History of Sexuality".

Here's a bite-sized summary. Here's a snack-sized summary of volume 1.

You mentioned religion. Whoa, what a role that plays in the words we use and their meanings too. Here's one discussion about it. [[Trigger warning: Marx references.)

BTW, sorry to say, the evidence is impossible to ignore: what hypocrites so many religious leaders have been.