Yes, gay marriage is legal in NY, but that's new. It'll be new here shortly, too. I've been in favor of legal gay marriage for 20 years. Before about 5 years ago [[and I still lived in NY then), most of my gay friends there used to say idiotic things like marriage was a "hetero-normative institution from a patriarchal society...". Legal gay marriage is overdue, new where it's legal, and soon-to-be where it's not.