Adjustments will no doubt be difficult especially if this is not what she wants. We did the reverse and moved in with Mom. Loss of privacy is the biggest problem. I also find it annoying that my brothers and sisters don't do more to help.
Two weeks ago we spent 10 hours in emergency with Mom. Everyone was mad at me cause I didn't call them. If the problem persisted and she was admitted I would have called. I did call her sister in Florida. Had I called them, no one would have come anyways.
My mother is 89, every two weeks my sister and her daughter come for dinner. My mother likes to cook for them which is fine with me since we do all the cooking on a daily basis. My big beef is that they expect to be waited on and never clear or clean the dishes. Also they take any left overs home like it's an entitlement. We were out yesterday [[day off) two sisters came for dinner and plates and pots were piled in the sink. We came home at 8 to see this mess. I took care of the dishes and my husband did the pots and pans. I also told my sisters they were "lazy fat asses". Which is true. That got them pissed.
They think we are bums who live off of my Mom. It's true, we live here rent free. We cook, we clean, we buy the groceries, we drive her and her friends, we maintain her car, the house and gardens.
We love Mom dearly, its my sibs that get under my skin. We own a home and could leave at any time. Sorry I turned this into a mini rant but I do get annoyed that no one else does anything for her.
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